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  • Sharing – I wrote a memoir about abuse. That doesn’t mean you’re entitled to every detail

    Every survivor has the freedom to choose how, when, and in what detail, they want to share their story. You can ask for more, but you also have to respect the survivor’s choice to not answer. They don’t owe you that. The only time it’s really even appropriate to press for details if you’re a criminal prosecutor trying to help the survivor bring the abuser to justice.

    Outside of that very specific situation? No, we don’t owe you anything. You can support a survivor without knowing all the details. In fact, respecting their boundaries around what they decide to share, is one great way to support them in their healing. They’ve already had too many people not respect their boundaries.

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    Shared Links (weekly) Oct 25, 2020

    A Call For Greater Investment In Workplace Mental Health: Leaders From Facebook, YouTube, Best Buy, Verizon Media And More Weigh In

    ‘Mental health can affect everyone’

    Self-Compassion As A Life Skill

    The Best Psychology Podcasts of 2020

    How to Stop Obsessing Over Your Mistakes

    Eradicating the roots of childhood trauma

    Photography as Therapy: How To Keep Your Mind Positively Occupied

    Mom Who Lost Daughter Now a Mental Health Advocate

  • Sharing – National Well-Being Before and During the Pandemic

    When I compare my personal experience to the overall statistics, again I can see where it is also kind of all over the place, because it’s individual. In some ways, I’m doing pretty well, in others, not so much. None of us are exactly the same, or living with the same circumstances. So as global as this pandemic is, the effects have been incredibly diverse. That person you are working with on a Zoom call, the medical professional, the person taking your to-go order, that teacher your kid is learning from, or even those kids and their parents are all dealing with any multitude of impacts that we know nothing about, and probably never will. The one thing we do know, is that they are being impacted. 

    We would do well, as a society to take advantage of this very obvious opportunity to learn that we are all impacted in different way by events, and to take the time to listen to how someone who isn’t like us, is impacted. This is a great time to understand the large scale of the world and all of the different experiences within it. Maybe we could at least settle for understanding that our own individual situations, are not representative of everyone. Not even close, in fact. 

  • Sharing – If You Want to Find Healing, Sometimes You Have to Stop Looking For It

    I really like the way Melissa ends the post below:   “We are so often focused on the destination that we fail to see how much we are actually accomplishing. We don’t give ourselves credit for the wins, no matter how small they may seem and we certainly don’t give ourselves grace on the days…

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    Are You Doom-Scrolling the News and Want Something Else?

    This collection of articles on Pocket might be a place to look for something else to do. https://getpocket.com/explore/item/how-to-destress-from-the-news Let’s face it, we’ve spent months dealing with bad news, uncertainty, and well, just kind of life being a mess in so many ways. Far too many people are feeling stuck in anxiety and depression, with no…

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    Shared Links (weekly) Oct. 18, 2020

    When mental health emergencies end in fatal police encounters

    How You Can Use Mindfulness to Guide Neuroplasticity to Improve Brain and Mental Health

    How to Help a Suicidal Friend

    Crisis Services & People of Color — We Can Do Better: Interview with Vic Armstrong

    These apps make mental health easier for people in the margins

    What We Know About LGBTQ Youth Mental Health and Suicide Prevention

    Why hope is essential, not a luxury

    Budget-Friendly Ways To Get Support For Your Mental Health