News and media reviews for the Child Abuse Survivor community, from fellow survivors
This, we know. Many survivors have experienced it first-hand. “Believing that the world is ultimately a fair and just place can result in individual and social complacency due to the idea that justice happens on its own, fueled by an … Continued
If you hadn’t noticed before, this site actually hosts two blogs. One, my personal thoughts and writings, and the other the Survivor News and Reviews, stuff I’m sharing along with some quick thoughts, or sometimes a contribution from someone else. … Continued
This is something so many of us deal with. In fact I was in conversation during our weekly #SexAbuseChat on Twitter talking about something similar: ““You need to be kinder to yourself, Jonny.” Those were the words of virtually every … Continued
As a blogger, and social media user, yes I want to try and be as careful as I can to post supportive messages, and not make anyone feel stigmatized through my words. That’s important, but I also have to remember that everyone is different. When you’re talking with someone through whatever medium, it’s important to not assume ill-intent. If the term “getting help” feels stigmatizing to you, simply ask people not to use it, suggest some other terms, etc. Have a conversation about how you want to talk about your mental health. Keep the lines of communication open, on both sides.
That’s how you end stigma. By communicating, instead of shutting anyone down.
I return to number 3 on this list often: 3. Take It One Day at a Time If you sit down and think that you have another month or more before life returns to normal, you will naturally gravitate … Continued
I think the question Ivy asks here is one of the most important things we should stop and think about, for many reasons: “Is that who you want to be? The real person this adversity reveals is the person you’ll … Continued
We need to talk about it. We need to get educated about the warning signs, and we need to care enough to have risky conversations about it. Yes, asking someone you care about if they are OK isn’t easy. It can lead to some hurt feelings, some anxiety, maybe even some shouting. None of that is pleasant.
Funerals are still worse.
When your experience tells you that something is going to hurt you, your brain will figure out how to avoid and survive it. It will naturally kick in. Again, you can learn to work around that, or maybe even ignore it, but expecting your brain to magically stop reacting is asking yourself to not be human.
Maybe instead of expecting that from yourself, or anyone, give your brain some credit for going into survival mode, for keeping you alive, and be gentle with yourself.
Even if you are in a situation where acting out of fear is silly, it’s OK to feel the fear.
Could be because, somewhere, we believe the worst about ourselves, in ways we would never to do other people. Most of us spend a lot of time criticizing ourselves. For example, if the thought comes up ‘I’m so ugly’, and … Continued
I came across this article today: The Internet and Mental Health: It Helped & Hurt My Recovery As many of you know, this is a topic that is near and dear to my heart, because I think, despite media attention … Continued