I think the question Ivy asks here is one of the most important things we should stop and think about, for many reasons: “Is that who you want to be? The real person this adversity reveals is the person you’ll … Continued
We need to talk about it. We need to get educated about the warning signs, and we need to care enough to have risky conversations about it. Yes, asking someone you care about if they are OK isn’t easy. It can lead to some hurt feelings, some anxiety, maybe even some shouting. None of that is pleasant.
Funerals are still worse.
When your experience tells you that something is going to hurt you, your brain will figure out how to avoid and survive it. It will naturally kick in. Again, you can learn to work around that, or maybe even ignore it, but expecting your brain to magically stop reacting is asking yourself to not be human.
Maybe instead of expecting that from yourself, or anyone, give your brain some credit for going into survival mode, for keeping you alive, and be gentle with yourself.
Even if you are in a situation where acting out of fear is silly, it’s OK to feel the fear.
Could be because, somewhere, we believe the worst about ourselves, in ways we would never to do other people. Most of us spend a lot of time criticizing ourselves. For example, if the thought comes up ‘I’m so ugly’, and … Continued
I came across this article today: The Internet and Mental Health: It Helped & Hurt My Recovery As many of you know, this is a topic that is near and dear to my heart, because I think, despite media attention … Continued
This is something that, I hope, more journalists will pay attention to, because there really is an important difference between calling something “a relationship with an underage person”, and child sexual abuse, or rape. It matters to be accurate about … Continued
If you’ve read much of anything around here, then I’m sure you’ll find it no surprise that I agree 100% with this: The hardest part of recovering from a toxic childhood isn’t just coping with the fact that your emotional … Continued
Tonya shares some good advice in the article below, I’m only quoting part of it, so definitely check out the whole thing. But, I do recognize myself in this lately, and I do recognize that allowing myself to get disconnected … Continued
I agree with what George says here about speaking out – Sometimes, when the others we’re concerned about include employers, spouses and children, it’s OK to exercise your right to just be quiet. At the end of the day, while … Continued
This is an interesting way to consider self-care. Typically we think of things we do alone, taking a break from people, resting, relaxing, etc. as “self-care”. Those things are important, but we also need to feel connected, so this is … Continued