Sharing – How Feeling Not Good Enough Makes You Crave Validation

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I also want to point out that this sense of being enough, having an internal sense of self and worth, is an important part of keeping children safe. Kids constantly on the lookout for external validation, are easier targets for grooming and abuse.

How would you develop this sense of self in yourself? I have some ideas, but I want to hear from all of you too.

New Research on Social Media and Teen Mental Health

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I think that second quote is really the key. We’ve seen studies that are reported as showing that kids who use social media get more depression and anxiety, but those studies do not address the question of whether there’s any proof that the causality is in that direction and not the other. In other words, do teens who use social media a lot develop depression, or do depressed teens use social media more. This study seems to indicate it’s the latter. As we continue with a lot of social distancing, and activities being canceled and in person gatherings are very limited, we know everyone will be relying more on social media to stay connected, so this is an important question, and I think what this study, and others, really shows us is that there are ways to use social media as a positive influence on our mental health, and a way to use it that will not be a positive influence on our mental health.

In the physical world, we have these same choices. Do we interact with people who are toxic? Do we spend all of our time comparing ourselves to others? Do we isolate? Or do we find out tribe, our group of supportive friends/family that can interact socially in ways that help our mental health?

We all make those same choices on social media, but the key difference here is that if we simply don’t choose, and make no effort to make conscious decisions about who we follow and interact with, social network algorithms will make the decision for us. Anyone already struggling with mental health is maybe more likely to not spent much time thinking about these things, and just let the app show them what it wants to show them, and that is not necessarily going to be good for our anxiety. Especially right now.

So, if you find yourself feeling more anxious, angry, irritated, etc. every time you hop on Twitter or Instagram, maybe instead of just being that way, spend some time thinking about who you follow, and what they are bringing in to your life?

For any of my social media using readers, can you share some of your favorite positive accounts that you interact with to HELP your mental health?

Reviews Elsewhere – 10 Best Mental Health Books That Will Completely Change Your Life

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OK the headline is a bit of a misnomer, it’s more like 10 little mini-reviews. And, I don’t know if these will necessarily change your life, because that’s a pretty steep claim to make about a book. On the other hand, this list does seem to have some pretty good books in it, some I’ve read or heard of before, some others I had not. So, there may be something on this list that catches your eye and you may want to check out. 

As Pauline says in the intro:

Mental health is a massive struggle in the United States. Add in quarantine, school, work, bullying, social media, bills, and so many other factors, and sometimes your head isn’t as quick to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Whether you struggle with mental illness or you want to educate yourself – here are 10 of the best mental health books that can completely change your life

It’s always better to be educated about mental health, but right now? It might be the difference between helping yourself or someone you love, and being completely helpless. 

Try not to be helpless when so many resources are available. 

Have you read any of the books on this list? What book would you add that did actually change your life? 

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