Question to ponder

ByMike McBride Reading Time: 1 minute

Dan left an interesting comment to that last post. He said he hasn’t a clue how to live his life his own way. Now, obviously, the exact details of living a life are going to be different for each individual, but I think there probably are some basics. For me, learning to live life my own way started with very simple things. It started by making small decisions based solely on what made me happy. I needed to give myself permission to consider my own happiness as important. I needed to be able to say “I need to do this because it is part of me being healthy, and not because others expect, or want me to.” For others, that may not be the case.

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