Changes in the blog roll

As you might notice over on the site, I finally found some time to switch over the blogroll to using the MT-Blogroll plugin. this should help me keep it more up to date. Obviously, given the size of the blogrolls now, I found that a large number of the blogs I had been linking to had stopped posting for a long time or were gone completely. Now, more than ever, I’ll be taking suggestions for survivor blogs to add. Feel free to send them my way.

Speaking of finding time, I’m having to give some serious thought to determining what my priorities are going to be over the next few months. I’m working a full time job, consulting part-time for my former employer, trying to lead the way on a website development and launch for the Friends of the Library, maintain two websites, do free-lance writing for another, and still manage to be a good husband to my wife and friend to my friends. I’m finding that I’m not spending enough time on the things I really want to do, this site included.

Given that, it’s high time for me to start managing my time better, and then once I’ve gotten a much better handle on how and where I can improve my time-management skills, start to wean away some of those things that are not a priority to me. Hopefully then I can get around to improvements on both sites that have been on the back burner far too long.

Time-management, yet another skill that I should have learned at a much younger age, but dealing with depression and everything else somehow got in the way of that for too many years. Yet another, albeit small, example of what is stolen from victims of abuse. The years of maturity that are lost by being perpetually stuck in the victim mentality. On the other hand, it’s never too late to start learning!

Similar Posts

  • We get more mail

    I got a note today that I thought my be of interest to all of you, so I’m sharing the relevant part of the email: I’m writing to introduce myself and the Letters to My Abusers Project. If you think you may be interested in publishing a letter to your abuser, you can read the…

  • Call for contributors

    I got an email yesterday and with Dyana’s permission I’m reproducing it here for all my readers to see and respond to, if they so choose! You can respond directly to Dyana at dyperkins@nospam.yahoo.com. (Take out the nospam part, I’m trying to limit the number of email harvesters who pick up the address from this…

  • It’s All So Toxic

    Of course, one of the tell-tale signs of depression, and unhealthy responses to trauma, like abuse, is overly black and white thinking. Going to extremes, if you will. So, it’s easy for many of us to fall into these toxic traps. It’s easy to think that we should feel shame about what happened to us, or that we can somehow rid ourselves of that shame, and anger, by simply refusing to do anything but be positive. But neither one of these is real healing. Real healing, like real emotions, and real people, are messier than that.

    It’s still worth it though, as are a lot of those messy emotions and people too. If you let yourself get out of the black and white thinking, you just might see that too.

  • Clergy abuse victim

    One of the more prominent victims of sexual abuse by a priest, Patrick McSorley, has apparently killed himself this week. I think the best summary of this situation is what Andrew Sullivan had to say about it, “some scars never heal“. No, some never do, you either learn to live with them, or they kill…

One Comment

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

To respond on your own website, enter the URL of your response which should contain a link to this post's permalink URL. Your response will then appear (possibly after moderation) on this page. Want to update or remove your response? Update or delete your post and re-enter your post's URL again. (Find out more about Webmentions.)