The third version of the Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse is up. I wasn’t able to get anything submitted this month, too busy really, but it does appear that there are plenty of good posts to read!
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I’m closing up last year’s business today. I just went to Prevent Child Abuse America and donated the $35 that had been raised this year through Amazon links and CafePress referrals Thank you to everyone for making that possible. I’ve also renewed this domain for another year, so here’s to hoping this site can be…
As I was sitting in the airport yesterday, I started to notice the number of people complaining about various things about air travel, and thinking to myself that yes, there are plenty of things to complain about, but some of what was being said just really wasn’t accurate. It seems to me that there are…
I was having a discussion with my wife tonight about giving blood and all the eligibility requirements that the Red Cross has added to keep the blood supply disease-free when we realized, that I can’t give blood. I hadn’t ever realized that before. I’ve not been a regular donater of blood by any stretch, because…
I finished reading Malcom Gladwell’s Outliers yesterday, and while I’m not going to get into a full review of the book on this site, I did want to talk about one particular section that, I think, is significant for child abuse survivors. If you’re not familiar with the book, Gladwell spends a great deal of…
Pin Which brings us to Daisy. She did not get her justice from the court system, quite the opposite. But, she did something else that many assume is a sign of “being healed”, she found her voice. She told her story, she had a movie made where she could speak her truth to the whole world. Surely, that is healed, right?
As we now know, that probably wasn’t the case. I assume that many people who watched that documentary went on to become fans of Daisy, admiring her for having the courage to tell her story, happy for her that she was able to overcome, but that had nothing to do with the reality of what surviving actually is.
The coincidence that I spoke of came this morning, when I popped over to Twitter during a quick coffee break, and saw Rachel Denhollander, another survivor who’s made an appearance in a documentary, Athlete A, on her involvement with the Larry Nasser case, talking about this article:
Daisy Coleman’s Death Lays Bare the Myth of ‘Surviving
Pin Of course, one of the tell-tale signs of depression, and unhealthy responses to trauma, like abuse, is overly black and white thinking. Going to extremes, if you will. So, it’s easy for many of us to fall into these toxic traps. It’s easy to think that we should feel shame about what happened to us, or that we can somehow rid ourselves of that shame, and anger, by simply refusing to do anything but be positive. But neither one of these is real healing. Real healing, like real emotions, and real people, are messier than that.
It’s still worth it though, as are a lot of those messy emotions and people too. If you let yourself get out of the black and white thinking, you just might see that too.
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Thanks for posting this. I hope you have time to join us for the carnival in September. I especially appreciate the support for the new hosts of the carnival as it travels away from my blog.