We’re not all the same

posted in: Child Abuse, Observations | 4

Tamara left me a comment on Facebook today that made me think. As you may or may not know, I’ve been doing a bit of traveling, and will continue to in the next couple of weeks, both as part of my work, and for some vacation. She noted that for her it would be difficult to be away from home, away from her “grounding” spot that much.

I can certainly understand that, but for me it’s different. I need the ability to explore from time to time in order to get out of my own head and see the larger world around me. Traveling is a great way to do that, though it certainly isn’t the only way. There are plenty of other ways to get outside my own head without leaving town as well. 🙂

It does go to show, though, that there’s no “right” way to heal. We’re all individuals, we’ve all lived through different forms of abuse, and the things we need to do to heal ourselves will also be different. There’s no fool proof formula to overcoming abuse, we all have to find the right ways to do what we need to do for ourselves. That can be a struggle at times, but it’s what makes all of us special, we’re all unique and worth the effort!

4 Responses

  1. Roxie

    I’m like You Mike I love to travel , to see the new , explore . I tend to love change , of course the kind that feels good is best but even change that is not great helps me learn and see people for who they are and mostly see myself and learn . I am a touchy feely person and love the visual .
    My dh is a homebody he loves the security of the sameness . He didn’t mind travel but some of the things he liked were those that reminded him of home lol .
    You are so right we all heal in our own way and our own time . I tend to come alive and grow when I travel and experience the new .
    In regards to healing or opinion putting stereotypes , & labeling etc. I always tell people not to put me in a box because I probably won’t fit and I just get stuck .

  2. marj aka thriver

    Your last few posts really show a healthy balance. I like that about your writing, Mike! Would you submit one of them, or an older post, to THE BLOG CARNIVAL AGAINST CHILD ABUSE this month? I’m doing this edition myself, in honor of World Day for the Prevention of Child Abuse on Thursday. And as always, I so appreciate your support and promoting the various carnival editions. Thanks!

  3. Erin Merryn

    We all find our own pathway to healing no path is the same the point is getting to that healing place so your no longer being haunted by the past.

  4. David

    I’m happy that you are finding ways to heal.

    It’s very difficult to find other survivors who are willing to talk about their abuses.

    I am a survivor and it is much more difficult for me since I am a guy, and it’s that much more embarrassing and tougher to talk about it.

    Take care of yourself.

    Glad I found you!

    Sincerely,

    David

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