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Happy 2011!

Much as Tracie mentioned in the last Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse of 2010, I’m not much for making New Year’s resolutions. On the other hand, I find birthdays, and new year’s, to be a good time to reflect on what’s going on, and check in to make sure I’m making progress in the areas I want to make progress in, as well as just generally making sure I’m headed in the right direction.

Sometimes those check-ins can lead to making something like a resolution, but as opposed to trying to do, or not do as the case may be, something different, I like to think of it more as tweaking the plan. This weekend, as the calendar changes to 2011, it’s clear to me that 2010 has stayed pretty close to on plan. Most things I set out to do a year ago were accomplished, but some were not. Sometimes life has a way of throwing you curve balls, and you have to adjust your plans. That certainly has happened more than once in 2010 too! The important thing is to be able, at the end of 2010, look back and see the improvements made in the past year. Years with progress, whether it be on a healing journey, or just a journey of self-improvement, are good years.

Looking forward, I know there are some things coming up that are a bit out of my control. That makes it hard to really plan for them, but I am aware of them now, and will be looking forward to things changing, even if I don’t know how, exactly, those changes are going to play out just yet. But I’ll be ready for them! On the stuff that is in my control, however, there are some tweaks needed. Mostly in terms of getting back into things that have slipped a bit this year, especially toward the end of the year when life got a little bit crazy for us.

In terms of this site, I couldn’t be happier. The site now has over 350 “fans” on the Facebook page, the Twitter stream has over 400 followers and I know even more are simply stopping in to read occasionally. I cannot thank all of you enough. That tells me that, despite the ups and downs of my ability to spend time writing, there’s some good coming from it.

I’m happy with 2010, it’s been a very good year. I’m hopeful that 2011 will be as well, and I’m ready to do what I need to for that to happen. I hope that you are as well, and that at the end of 2011, you will be able to look back and see the progress and improvements you’ve made this year!

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