Quick Thought Number 6 – The Perfect is the Enemy of Showing UpPin
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Quick Thought Number 6 – The Perfect is the Enemy of Showing Up

ByMike McBride Reading Time: 1 minute

Oftentimes, I suspect that many of us, when confronted with the reality that someone we care about, friends, family members, etc., are dealing with depression or another mental health issue, find ourselves afraid of not knowing what to say to them. As if anything but the perfect friend with the perfect words to support them would push them toward self-harm or into some sort of worse condition.

This can have a paralyzing effect on many of us. Afraid of doing the less-than-perfect thing, we don’t do anything. Scared that what we say to our loved ones won’t be enough, we don’t say anything.

Afraid of being less than perfect, we become nothing. We forget one of the great rules of life, that half of it is “just showing up”. While we try to read, research, and find the perfect thing to say and/or do, we’re leaving our friend alone and suffering.

Our fear of being less than perfect isn’t protecting our friends from our imperfections; it’s depriving them of the connections they so desperately need at this time.

You don’t have to know the perfect thing to say. You don’t have to say anything. But you do have to show up if you want to support someone.

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