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    They are truly resilient, like many of us who have survived sexual abuse, and gone on to talk about it, share our own stories, and live our adult lives. But never confuse that resiliency with how hard it really is to do. Never look at a survivor who has appeared to overcome their abuse, and assume that it’s ok to diminish what happened to them. It’s never easy, and for each one who might appear to have overcome, I’ll show you 5 who are still struggling every single day. You’ll find many of them in prison, or mental health care centers. Still dealing with the aftermath of their childhood trauma without access to the same support and resources that we lucky few have had the privilege to have. Yet they are all human beings, and they were all children once, children who had to suffer at the hands of adults who were more interested in their own pleasures, comfort, and place in their society than they were to consider the damage being done to these children.

    Don’t be one of those adults. There are many ways to abuse a child. Larry Nassar did and is paying for his crimes, finally. But there were a whole lot of other adults who abused these girls, by not taking it seriously, not investigating, and not caring enough about them as human beings to protect them. Make no mistake about that.

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  1. i was sexually and emotionally and physically abused by my dad. it started when i was 5 or 6 and i am turning 17 this july, right now i am tring to put my father in prison, but it is not work. i just want all the pain to go away and all the tears to stop falling. my biggest and only fear is that he wont get put in prison and he will do this to some other child and i wont be able to help that child and then they will have to go through all the bullshit and wont ever have a good normal life. how can i help and how can i make it all go away forever?????

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