It’s enough to make you just give it all up and walk away.
That, to me, is cancel culture. I know there’s a lot of talk about cancel culture and whether it even exists or not, but frankly, to me, the real canceling that goes on online is when the good, thoughtful and caring, people just walk away instead of being here and having their voices matter. Because they’re tired. They’re tired of the constant outrage, the constant anger directed at them for not doing, and believing, everything random people expect them to. The vitriol directed at them in direct messages, comments, and tweets for simply trying to have a conversation, from all sides. For not supporting conspiracy groups, for not using the correct words, for not advocating for exactly the same things, in exactly then same way. Because if you don’t “agree” with them and show your support, in clear, and often financial, ways, you are the enemy.
Seriously, it gets old. It’s toxic. It’s exhausting. It makes you question why you even bother with this at all. I, for one, don’t need this in my life on a regular basis. No one does. So, instead of having real conversations about real issues, and doing real education, we’re walking away and letting the worst kinds of people win the internet.
I’m tired, but I’m not ready to do that. If 19 years of working to educate people, and let anyone know that they are not alone as a survivor, or as a person dealing with mental health issues, isn’t enough for you, and you can’t understand that all of the things I do online to make this happen I do in my spare time, for free, then you can go somewhere else.
Take all of your fake outrage and fake “facts” with you too.
I find one of the best things is to speak to a friend – that usually calms me down. Also doing some aerobic exercise is good.
I’ve had less than 10 attacks. Other than the solutions listed and broke’s comment, I use music to calm me down, whatever I thought would take me out of myself – chillout, dance, rock, anything. That’s a good instant solution if you’re the kind of person who carries a walkman the whole time and no friend is around.
Hi Mike
just wanted to let you know have linked to your site in my today’s article: Men Speak Against Child Abuse. No need to have a panic attack – I said wonderful things about you.
All the best.
I have had panic attacks for the last couple of years and the best thing I do is take lots of deep breaths and walk. The meds do help too but it does take them time to work.
I love your blog btw.
Take care.
I find that I get panic attacks overnight. SO I take valerian an hour before bedtime to help me relax.
we try to remember that breathing is normal at a even pace shallow hot breathing is not if we cant stop then we call our T and she helps us
I have had panic/anxiety attacks since I was 12 (18 years now.) It got to a point where I was no longer in control of my life. I have a three point plan to attack my panic attacks: Counseling, Facing my fears and when unable to control it & I am in a safe place where I can just go to sleep – Xanex. I also find that if I make sure that I always have a bottle of water with me I can calm myself down. Therapy has been a long journey – but well worth it! I would recommend for anyone experiencing anxiety attacks to seek counseling.