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This has been my experience, and from talking to many other survivors over the years, I know it’s fairly common. “A PTSD sufferer can have trauma memories that are alarmingly vivid and, at the same time, infuriatingly vague. Or, in some cases, there is total amnesia. This paradox has been at the heart of the…

Sharing – Supporting Your New Partner if They Are A Survivor
Understanding this is one of the hardest things about being in a relationship, of any kind, with an abuse survivor. As a sexual abuse survivor, it has been paramount in my romantic relationships to talk openly about my experience and what things can be very difficult for me. These discussions are important because there can be things that seem very simple and routine to you that your partner does not see the same way. (For example, I don’t like to be touched until I can see the person touching me and know they are someone safe. Approaching me from behind and touching me before I’ve had a chance to “see” who I am with can be very startling to me.)
I like to think that survivors are worth the effort, and my wife has confirmed that at least our relationship is worth it. It requires honesty and openness that may be new to survivors, but it’s the only way forward.
This Week’s Links (weekly)
How Do We Stop Child Abuse? tags: CA For Cleveland Victims, Trust and Comfort May Be First Steps in Healing tags: CA Children and PTSD tags: CA Bullying in the Culture of Sport Coaching, Part II tags: CA Sports Video on sex abuse: Animated short helps kids with tough topic tags: CA Posted from Diigo….
Reading – 7 Ways to Avoid Re-Traumatizing A Trauma Victim
Mostly, this is good advice, but I hesitate to put this out there. Many people, when dealing with someone who has experienced trauma, or mental illness, wind up walking on eggshells, afraid of “re-traumatizing” so much that being around them becomes uncomfortable for everyone. I would add to always remember that this is still the…