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Link – The Adulting School Is Here to Help You Grow up Without Embarrassing Yourself

ByMikeM Reading Time: 1 minute

OK, stop rolling your eyes and think about this for a minute.

Yes, this seems kind of funny, but as much as I’ve talked about how having an abusive childhood means not developing the skills we are supposed to learn as children because we were too busy just trying to survive, I wonder how effective something like this could be for survivors? Especially when I read a quote like this one:

“You know, when you see 10 people feeling like they’re the only one, and they’re all struggling with the same thing, you think, let’s get these people together so they can learn this stuff and not feel so isolated and ashamed,” Weinstein told NPR.”

How much does that sound like adult survivors trying to manage life?

http://www.travelandleisure.com/culture-design/adult-school-maine

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