Links I’m Sharing (weekly) June 21, 2020
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One Way To Be An Ally Right Now? Support Black Mental Health.
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Perpetrators of child sexual abuse use sport as cover, inquiry finds
– I feel like this is not surprising.
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Sharing – How to Respond When Mental Health Advice Feels Like Judgment
Look, I get it, you tried something and it helped you, or you’ve seen it help someone else. Clearly, you are excited about the possibility of helping others, but you’re forgetting something. You’re forgetting that the person you are sharing this advice with, isn’t you.
When you come walking into a conversation with friends, or especially into online communities with statements like the ones above, the message you are actually sending is “Gee, fixing this is easy, you’re just doing it wrong”.
Imagine using those actual words towards someone you barely know. You wouldn’t, would you? At least if you’re a decent human being, you wouldn’t. But you are totally willing to take your beliefs, your own experience, and completely railroad another person’s current reality with it, you are doing something awfully similar. In a moment of emotional vulnerability, you have come in, guns blazing, with the suggestion that all of this pain they are in, and all of this struggling they are going through, should have been easy to avoid.
Link – Healing can’t tell the time
I couldn’t make the Twitter chat referred to in this post last night. That time difference to the UK falls right towards the end of my work day, not great for following twitter, but I really thought what Karen wrote here is something that many of us would do well to remember when we are…
Link – Civil War | In Others’ Words…
This is something I wish we could understand about child abuse survivors: I am finally forgiving myself for the things that I did to survive.  Those things that seemed foolish or harmful from the cheap seats.  Those things that seemed self destructive and counter-intuitive from the outside.  Many of them were, honestly, but I’m…
Link – 5 Beliefs People with Adverse Upbringing Have about Themselves
I’ll freely admit these were beliefs I had about myself growing up and into early adulthood. Some of them are still things I struggle with all these years later. Oddly enough, I struggle with two that seem to be contradictory, but are dependent upon what facet of my life you’re talking about. At work, and…
Sharing – Childhood sexual abuse: Mental and physical after-effects closely linked
The study looked at the fact that among girls who had been sexually abused, there are marked increases in mental health diagnosis, and also physical health issues like urinary tract infections, etc. I think either of these is a possibility, maybe even both are true for different survivors. But, I also know that I’m looking…