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Link – Video: Is Being a Mental Illness Advocate My Entire Identity?
I completely agree with what Gabe has to say in this video. None of us can be an advocate all day every day. “I don’t want my entire life to be all mental health advocacy all the time. That would just be boring, for one thing. But I think it would be obsessive, and it…
Sharing – Strange Healing is Still Healing
My biggest epiphany in therapy was the freedom to make my own life moving forward, because I had never felt I was allowed to do so. Going back to the person I was before I was abused would not have been that.Â
After all, everyone is changing all the time. Trauma or not, people move forward in their lives and change. Going back isn’t a solution.Â
Sharing – Why Healing from Trauma Can Get Harder As We Age
As I’ve said before, we were too busy simply surviving the abuse to learn the things we were supposed to learn as children, so we often start out behind in various ways.
Of course, in order to learn those things we need to do the work as an adult, to first unlearn the things we learned, and then learn the things we didn’t learn to start with. This is, perhaps, one of the real tragedies of so many survivors not even telling anyone, let alone starting this work, for decades.
That’s so many more years of doing the things we need to unlearn, and undoing that is just going to be more difficult the longer this has been true for us. So, what can we do?
Sharing – How to Heal Childhood Trauma Without Forgiving the Person Who Caused It
If you choose to forgive, know that it is your choice, including what forgiveness means to you. I’ve talked to many survivors who have made that choice, and how they define forgiveness isn’t always the same Know, however, that it absolutely does not mean you have to now be silent and never bring it up again, and know that people who desire your silence, are not your allies.
I will agree with Roseanna about that, it’s not about forgiveness, it’s about healing.
