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Shared Links (weekly) Dec. 3, 2023
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5 Big Lies Our Trauma Wants Us To Believe, From A Psychologist
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9 tips to survive this particularly stressful holiday season
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The Act of Reaching Out– “Call them instead. Reaching out needn’t be a one-way street.”
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Sharing – Psychologist Explains Why Forgiveness Sometimes Does More Harm Than Good & You Don’t Owe It To Anyone
We haven’t talked about it here recently, but I know a lot of abuse survivors are bombarded with messages about forgiveness. Some of those messages are awful, such as demanding we forgive our family members for their benefit; some are more well-meaning but not helpful. What we don’t hear often enough is that you can…
Sharing – Shouldn’t I Be Over My Painful Childhood by Now?
I love what Sharon has to say here and wanted to share it with all of you, because she’s 100% correct about healing from childhood trauma: It’s completely understandable that you want to be “over it” or healed from your traumatic childhood. You don’t want to still feel the pain. You don’t want to be…
Link – We need a sponsorship model for mental health
Could the model in use for years for substance abuse treatment through AA and NA work for mental health? The article below lays out some of the challenges, and they are real, though many of the concerns also exist in AA as well. (What to do if you and your sponsor are both backsliding, for…
No, kids don’t get over it without help
The truth is that abuse victims can be resilient, but generally not on their own. We also know that it doesn’t end there.
Sharing – How Perfectionism and Childhood Trauma Are Connected
As a kid, I needed everything to be perfect, not because I was some overachiever. It was because I knew in my heart and body that anything that wasn’t right could create a violent situation. Any detail overlooked, any warning sign missed, or any wrong word could end up with me getting abused. It became a learned behavior like Pavlov’s dogs. Any mistake created anxiety and fear of repercussion.
