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There’s some decent advice in here, but I really wanted to focus on this one bit of information – “There was a time when I couldn’t even leave my house. I’d become a hermit, hiding from any and everything that might see me. It took encouragement from others while I started over — practicing getting…
The documentary will air on PBS in April. Obviously, it will be focused on Los Angeles, a place where this problem is especially acute, but one that we might see play out, at a smaller scale, anywhere. It’s an important topic that people still don’t quite get until it’s someone in their family, or that…
This is another reminder that there’s no excuse to dismiss the damage done to human beings when they are abused. Kids do not get over it, or barely remember it. They are impacted in myriad ways well into adulthood. Not doing everything we can to limit trauma, let alone arguing for policies that create more trauma for certain groups of children, cannot be tolerated.
I think, for many of us, we’ve always assumed that when you want to have a difficult conversation, and disclosing your depression can be a difficult conversation, you wanted to set aside a time to have it without any distractions.
What if the distractions would help instead?
As I’ve said before, we were too busy simply surviving the abuse to learn the things we were supposed to learn as children, so we often start out behind in various ways.
Of course, in order to learn those things we need to do the work as an adult, to first unlearn the things we learned, and then learn the things we didn’t learn to start with. This is, perhaps, one of the real tragedies of so many survivors not even telling anyone, let alone starting this work, for decades.
That’s so many more years of doing the things we need to unlearn, and undoing that is just going to be more difficult the longer this has been true for us. So, what can we do?
It’s all about flexibility. As the article below points out, online appointments don’t work for everyone. They do require a stable and fast internet connection for video, and not everyone has that.
On the other hand, they also point out that not everyone has transportation to a therapist’s office, time away from work to regular travel to appointments, or the ability to get the whole family, for example, transportation to the same location.
For those folks, the switch to Telehealth that the pandemic thrust upon all of us is proving to be a godsend because they have something that was inaccessible to them previously. Even as others need a place to meet with a therapist, or simply connect better in person.