Author: MikeM

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Is Online Therapy Dying?
ByMikeM December 8, 2022December 7, 2022 Reading Time: 3 minutes

Even though some companies might have gotten this all wrong, we still have the same issues we’ve had with mental health services that we’ve had for years. It’s too difficult for too many people to access. Technology can help eliminate some hurdles preventing people from getting help. That is worth doing when it’s done right. Those services can and should go away when it’s not done right. The fact that many are indicates that chasing money is not the way.

That shouldn’t ever be the way. It doesn’t mean online therapy itself is a bad idea, though. We must be careful to get it right.

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Sharing – Growth Requires Unlearning as Much as Learning
ByMikeM December 7, 2022December 7, 2022 Reading Time: 2 minutes

As children in an abusive situation, we may have learned a lot of things that helped us survive that situation. Outside of that situation, as adults, however, it may be time to unlearn some of those things.

For example, we can’t learn to trust a person as an adult until we first unlearn that “fact” we took from childhood that no one was to be trusted. We can’t learn to love ourselves until we unlearn the blame and shame we took upon ourselves due to the abuse.

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Sharing – The Problem of Male Grief
ByMikeM December 5, 2022December 5, 2022 Reading Time: 1 minute

When my wife and I both lost our parents in a short period, I was thankful that there were people in our lives who gave us space to grieve and checked in on both of us. I’m also acutely aware of how different the reactions were as well. Part of that was the difference in relationships, my wife was much closer to her parents than I was to mine, but there was also an undertone where I was expected to be less emotional about it than she was. Again, plenty of people did better, but it was still there.

I also recognize that I was lucky to have people in my life who saw that. Many men do not have any space to grieve or process emotions other than anger. For those men, read the whole thing and learn how to create space.

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ByMikeM December 4, 2022January 19, 2025 Reading Time: 1 minute
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Sharing – Back to the future?
ByMikeM December 2, 2022December 1, 2022 Reading Time: 1 minute

We do need each other. There is no replacement for the support of another human being, regardless of what that support might look like. Just not being left alone with our struggles is a source of support.

This then brings Ben to another important point. Imagine if we all had a modicum of education about mental health and could not only show up for each other but show up with some educated actions to take.

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Self Love Is a Struggle Because We Know Our Own Faults
ByMikeM November 29, 2022November 28, 2024 Reading Time: 2 minutes

We never get to see other people’s thoughts if they choose not to share them. We see ALL of our thoughts, however. That puts us at a disadvantage when deciding what we “deserve” compared to others. We might do well to assume that everyone has the same kind of thoughts that we do at times because we all do. We just don’t talk about them and share them with the world. (Most of us, anyway)

And we all deserve self-care.

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