Reviews Elsewhere – Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

Reviews Elsewhere – Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

I’ll repeat what I’ve said many times. Kids are often vulnerable because they have no close adults to trust and lean on for support. No one is there modeling what a mature sense of self is, so they aren’t learning it. I don’t necessarily agree with everything Drs. Maté and Neufeld said in this interview that I’m sure I wouldn’t agree with everything in their book, but on this point, I agree. Kids need trusted adults who make them feel safe and loved.

Yet we keep creating a society that makes it harder to provide that for kids. We are paying a price for that.

Sharing – What Is Familial Sexual Grooming?

Sharing – What Is Familial Sexual Grooming?

Consider how often a child is not believed because the family friend or member “doesn’t seem like the type?”

That’s familial grooming. That is getting the family to see you as one thing when you are targeting a child in that family, thereby not only giving you access to the child but creating doubt about whether their own child is telling the truth. It also doesn’t help that so many of us think we know what a predator looks like, and are so easily fooled:

Shared Links (weekly) Oct. 9, 2022

Shared Links (weekly) Oct. 9, 2022

Sharing – The Right Is Misusing the Word “Grooming,” and It Can Have Serious Consequences

Sharing – The Right Is Misusing the Word “Grooming,” and It Can Have Serious Consequences

Why is this so hard for so many people to understand? Why are some of you so dead-set on causing harm to people who are different than you? If your religious leaders encourage you to harm people or treat any other group of human beings as anything less than human, they are not to be taken seriously. We need to stop giving these leaders our attention or our money.

Sharing – Here’s How to Actually Talk to Little Kids About Sex

Sharing – Here’s How to Actually Talk to Little Kids About Sex

Since you didn’t, and school isn’t allowed to, teach them someone else will. It might be online or in person, but there is nothing more attractive to real pedophiles than kids who lack the basic skills and open communication with adults to tell on them.

Kids who are aware of their bodies and their place in the world can openly talk about sex with trusted and safe adults, understand what it means to be LGBTQ in some basic fashion and what to do when someone makes them feel threatened, making for poor targets. That’s not grooming; that’s teaching them basic self-defense. That’s teaching them the truth and the basics of reality.

I know a lot of supporters and people in the child abuse community don’t want to hear this, but I will not stand by while we practice things that make children less safe. Lacking knowledge about these topics does that. You’re not protecting them. You’re endangering them.