Sharing – How To Identify Grooming Predatory Behavior & Stop It
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Sharing – How To Identify Grooming Predatory Behavior & Stop It

That’s our blind spot. We’re so busy looking for creepy, anti-social, stereotypes that we miss the charming abusers right in our midst, and we miss all the signs and hints that our kids might be dropping because we just didn’t stop to consider that adult to be dangerous. We just assumed they were safe, and our kids would somehow know better anyway.

Clearly, that strategy isn’t working.

Shared Links (weekly) June 27, 2021

Shared Links (weekly) June 27, 2021

Sharing – Preventing Online Sexual Victimization of People with Developmental Disabilities

Sharing – Preventing Online Sexual Victimization of People with Developmental Disabilities

No one should be thrown into online, or offline, society without meaningful education about things like consent, what constitutes illegal behavior, the signs of grooming and so on. It’s just setting them up for failure, and victimization. Why would we do that to anyone? Or do people with intellectual and development disabilities not deserve that same consideration?

Sharing – ‘They Aren’t Who You Think They Are’

Sharing – ‘They Aren’t Who You Think They Are’

If nothing else, I hope you’ll go read the article for two reasons. One, to recognize how difficult it can be to come forward, and have leaders dismiss your claims, so that you know how not to run any organizations that you and your kids are involved with, and two, to recognize how certain cultural values create a space for abusers. Churches rely on charismatic leaders, but without proper safeguards and oversight, you’ll attract some very charismatic evildoers too. Also, understand that environments with such a strong focus on sexual purity, create a culture where kids are desperate to not do the “worst thing” and are susceptible to this kind of grooming, not to mention a lot of shame around a very natural subject. That shame only increases the secrecy around sex, and again creates a place where secrets can thrive. DO NOT BE A PLACE WHERE SECRETS THRIVE!

Shared Links (weekly) Feb. 28 2021

Shared Links (weekly) Feb. 28 2021

The problem with perfect

6 Happiness Books That Mental Health Experts Trust

Make Social Media Work For (rather Than Against) Your Mental Health

The Difference Between Self-Esteem, Self-Confidence, and Self-Compassion

This Nonprofit Found A Unique Way To Help Sexually Abused Children Heal

But They Went Willingly – Understanding Teen Sexual Grooming

Mental Illness and Homelessness

Shared Links (weekly) Feb. 7 2021

Shared Links (weekly) Feb. 7 2021

Denver sent mental health help, not police, to hundreds of calls

44 Black Mental Health Support Resources for Anyone Who Needs Them

When Black Mental Health Suffers, We Aren’t Taken Seriously

I’m a survivor of child sexual grooming. It took me 20 years to know it wasn’t my fault

Make Space, Listen, Offer Hope: How To Help A Child At Risk Of Suicide

4 Ways to Talk to Boys About Suicide

We must overcome gender stereotypes to support survivors

Recognizing Suicidal Behavior

When a Mental-Health Crisis Lands You in Jail

Sharing – How Feeling Not Good Enough Makes You Crave Validation

Sharing – How Feeling Not Good Enough Makes You Crave Validation

I also want to point out that this sense of being enough, having an internal sense of self and worth, is an important part of keeping children safe. Kids constantly on the lookout for external validation, are easier targets for grooming and abuse.

How would you develop this sense of self in yourself? I have some ideas, but I want to hear from all of you too.

Sharing – Online grooming: What it is, how it happens, and how to defend children
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Sharing – Online grooming: What it is, how it happens, and how to defend children

I know we’ve touched on this topic more than a few times, but I don’t think we can repeat it enough. The article below has some really good advice, but maybe none more so than this: Building a foundation of trust, where the child feels safe all of the time, can build the safety net…