If you’re interested in finding a few good self-help type books for the Summer months, check out this list by Sharon Martin.
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/imperfect/2016/07/book-recommendations-from-a-therapist/
What more can I say about this? There are clear connections between improved outcomes for kids who are surrounded by supportive adults, and then we created a society that makes it nearly impossible to create that kind of community. The article talks about small acts of cooperation and inclusion, building the network of trusted adults, but how many of us would even know where to start? How many of us don’t trust anyone? How many of us have friends or non-immediate family members around who our kids can trust?
As I said earlier, we don’t live in an ideal world where everyone has an open mind and is comfortable having conversations about mental health and trauma. We have to make choices. For some, there are serious consequences to being identified as someone with mental health struggles in their professional lives. Others aren’t safe enough to talk about the trauma they are currently dealing with. We all make choices when dealing with different people around us, who we know are safe, versus those we don’t feel safe with.
Your choices are valid. They don’t have to be the same as mine because your life isn’t mine. All I ask is that you be thoughtful about your choices so you don’t find yourself in an unsafe situation. That’s all we can expect of anyone, no matter how much we want to see and hear more voices talking about mental health in the world.
Four and Five on this list resonated the most with me. “4. Approach social media mindfully; ask ‘why?’ … 5. Prune” Now, the why Jelena mentions is about taking a moment and asking yourself why you are looking at social media. Are you avoiding something else, or just bored, etc.? As opposed to using it…
As a society, we have, rightfully, tried to move away from doing those things, but we haven’t really gotten better at helping people build resiliency. Is it any wonder that we had an epidemic of anxiety, even before COVID-19? We’ve kind of left people with an uncertain world, in which anything can just randomly happen to anyone, while leaving intact our belief systems that teach us that the world is fair.
It’s not. It’s not even close, and yes part of the reason it isn’t fair is that there are bad people in power doing bad things, but even if we could rid ourselves of that as much as possible, (and we should), the world would still be a random place where random things happen, for no good reason.
There would still be natural disasters, accidents, and yes, even abuse and crime. There would still be people with disabilities, mental and psychical, and there would still be victims. Because we’re human, and being human is kind of messy and random.
That’s not going anywhere. The challenge is to find the resiliency to live our lives anyway. This is where we’ve failed too many people, and where we have failed ourselves, finding comfort in false “explanations” instead of facing the hard truths.
We’ve spent so much time looking at lists like this one, looking for the bad people, and that is absolutely part of abuse prevention. Still, we’ve missed the boat on what might be the most significant tool in our prevention toolkit, taking the target off kids by connecting with them as parents and with other trusted adults—helping them be less vulnerable.
Kids who don’t have secrets make terrible targets for abusers. Kids with support and secure relationships aren’t easily manipulated and aren’t too eager to please adults.
We need our kids to be more of that, starting with having close relationships with the safe adults in their lives.
Can we definitively say what happened to Rob Whalen shows a lack of caring in major league baseball about mental health, or a failure of the Mariners? No. I’m not ready to say that.There’s too much we don’t know from this story. What I will say, however, is that his description of what happened in…
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RT @SurvivorNetwork: Link – Book Recommendations From A Therapist: If you’re interested in finding a few good self-help type books .. https…
RT @SurvivorNetwork: Link – Book Recommendations From A Therapist: If you’re interested in finding a few good self-help type books .. https…
Thanks for sharing, i just feel not enough books ….if comparing to business or other personal development
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