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Book Review of Sorts – Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away
For many survivors, their definition of healed automatically becomes a goal that can never be reached. We should quit trying to “be the person I was before the abuse” because it’s impossible. By setting that as our pass/fail goal, we sentence ourselves to a lifetime of falling short, instead of a lifetime of celebrating the gap between where we started and where we are today. We also never find a better goal that is more realistic.
Please, take a good look at how you are defining healed. More importantly, don’t lose sight of the amount of healing and growth that you’ve already done. Be proud of it. This is your life, it’s not a pass/fail exam. It’s so much bigger than that.
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An example of the path to healing being long
I probably still loop back through some of these stages at various times, but it’s not part of my daily life anymore. Take this list as a sign to take your time and give yourself grace for how long it takes while celebrating the small victories along the way, but also know that it’s worth the time and effort. If I can find the peace and calmness that I have now, imperfect as it is, you can too.
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I Started Healing When I Convinced Myself I was Safe Now, What About People Who Aren’t Safe?
Casey calls out those of us who would say “love is love” and support our LGBTQ friends and family members without standing up and doing what we can to actually make this world safer for them. I’ll go one further. If we want to call ourselves mental health advocates and advocates for trauma survivors we need to do what we can to push for a world that is safe for everyone. We can’t heal when we don’t feel safe, and for too many people in this world, they have no reason to feel safe.
We need to advocate for a world that is safe for them too.
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Shared Links (weekly) July 23, 2023
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From Panic to Peace: Practical Techniques for Coping with Trauma-Related Panic Attacks
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End the Silence: Ask for Help with Mental Health with Thom Singer
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Why We Need to Keep Writing (and Reading) about Mental Health
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Goodbye, Perfect: How to Stop Pleasing, Proving, and Pushing for Others… and Live For Yourself
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Healing from Within: Empowering Steps on the Journey to Overcoming Depression
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Shared Links (weekly) July 9, 2023
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Child depression rates are skyrocketing – but social media isn’t to blame. Here’s why– Correlation is not causation, the relationship between mental health and social media is much more complicated than some would lead us to believe.
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Movies that Matter: Resilience: The Biology of Stress & The Science of Hope
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