Rethinking free speech?

Sue’s gotten herself riled up over a book that was written to defend “Boylovers”. She’s titles her post “Rethinking free speech”, and while I think we can all relate to that reaction, I’m not sure that it’s the right one.

Here’s my thinking on this. Let’s suppose there was a law that said you couldn’t publish anything about pedophilia. That makes the topic go off into the dark corners of the world. Now maybe you’re thinking that isn’t a bad thing, but I think it is. When you push something off into the dark corners of the world, where no one talks about it, it never gets dealt with. By having this book out there, and having it accessible, everyone is free to see this for what it is. They are able to look at exactly what a pedophile is telling himself and those who share his beliefs. It’s open to be criticized by experts in the field of child abuse and it effects. If it wasn’t free to be published, none of this would happen. The author would be able to gather his own little band of followers and share his beliefs without anyone taking those beliefs and exposing them to the truth. They would stay in their little dark corner of the world, doing their dirty deeds and never be exposed, because we wouldn’t know about them.

I say, bring on the book, let the world know what this person is all about and how he would like to live his life, and then let the world also understand the truth about the long-term, devastating affects this behavior has on children. Let the world know exactly how a pedophile plans to coerce children and let us teach our children to defend themselves from it. Most of all, let the world know that this is wrong, and that while he is free to write and say what he wants, we will be right there to disagree with him. We will exercise our own First Amendment rights to educate the world about the affects of child molestation, and expose those who would define this behavior as something other than the sickness that it is.

By the way, I didn’t change any spellings in this post because this page already gets hits from search queries like “photos of children being abused” so it’s not like the sickos aren’t getting here anyway. Besides, let them. Let them come and see what being a victim of childhood abuse is really all about! I didn’t feel “loved” when I was being molested, I felt used, dirty, scared and worthless, but I bet there’s not a chapter covering that in this book, eh?

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One Comment

  1. I TOTALLY AGREE WITH EVERYTHING THAT WAS SAID. I AM 18 YEARS OLD AND WAS MOLESTED BY MY FATHER FOR 4 YEARS WHEN I WAS YOUNGER. HE I JUST GOING ON TRIAL FOR IT NEXT WEEK. I HATE MEN OR WOMEN WITH THIS PROBLEM AND CHILDREN SHOULD BE PROTECTED FROM THEM!

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