Side effects?

ByMike McBride Reading Time: 1 minute

In looking through my referrer logs, in among the various other search terms that people have used to find this site, I noticed that someone was searching for “side effects of child abuse”. Excuse me, but wtf? Side effects? I’m sorry, but to me side effects are something that you get when you’re trying to do something good, like when I was on Paxil, there were side effects, but overall the net effects of taking Paxil were positive.

Child abuse is a whole different thing! The things I write about here are not side effects of being abused, they are direct effects of being abused. Being abused was not something positive that had some slightly negative side effects, it was a wholly devastating and damaging thing. Don’t even come here and try to dismiss these things as side effects!

OK enough of my semantic ranting for today…:)

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