Dissociating

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I read with great interest Marj’s post about feeling grief as opposed to dissociating. One, because I also was diagnosed with one of those “other” dissociative disorders, with fugue being the “major” symptom. But secondly, because my history of dissociating has been a concern of mine recently. I’m due to have some minor surgery in a couple of days, and while I know with full certainty that it’s a very simple procedure and there shouldn’t be any problems, I still have some fear and anxiety about it, mostly because I’m unsure of exactly how I will react to the situation!

The surgery is a minor procedure, truth be told I’m having a vasectomy, making our decision to not have children a permanent one. Not a major deal, but then again, as a survivor of sexual abuse, simply by virtue of the location of the procedure, it stands to be somewhat emotionally traumatic for me. Perhaps I will write about both the procedure and my difficulty with it in more detail over the weekend, after it’s over. 🙂

Unfortunately, when faced with this anxiety I have noticed myself dissociating ever so slightly. That’s not good. That’s not the healthy way to deal with this, but it is still my natural inclination. I still react to the stress the same way I always dealt with my depression, having the desire to either sleep, or just not be present in some way, until it’s all over. I’m afraid that in a small, but significant way, I haven’t been here lately while I wait for this to be over.

Which just goes to show, even after all this time some behaviors are very tough to unlearn.

 

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2 Responses

  1. Angela
    | Reply

    You’ve got to give yourself permission to be afraid, nervous, anxious…. Technically it is a routine procedure with thousands of men going through it each year BUT it’s also something that thousands of men won’t even discuss doing. Let yourself feel what you feel.

  2. Andy
    | Reply

    Ouch!
    We’ll keep you in our prayers

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