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Link – To Stop Workplace Harassment, Start By Educating Our Children
I want to tie this post with the one I posted yesterday, because we see here the logic of something happening in childhood, and continuing into adulthood, and the workplace. “Today’s schoolyard bullies will become tomorrow’s workplace bullies. Thus, if you want to stop workplace harassment, then start educating our children about these issues.” Likewise,…
Sharing – The Key Differences Between Social and Emotional Loneliness
I think it’s important that we understand our need for both. As science keeps telling us, we are social creatures. Even introverts like me need some sort of social activity and friends. We also need those intimate relationships where we can hit those emotional connections. Romantic relationships are an obvious example here, but other relationships can also be our emotional connection.
The lack of one of these will feel like loneliness, but the “fix” will be different. If I’m well-connected to my wife but missing out on the variety of social connections that a larger friend group might provide, that’s where my focus should be, and it might show up differently. The lack of an emotional connection would also look different and brings with it a different set of risks.
Sharing – Psychological and Physiological Power of Validation
Note what it says, words like listening and acceptance. Note also what it doesn’t say, like anything about fixing things or changing their feelings, etc.
I talk often on here about simply being there. Sitting with someone who is struggling. Validation is all about that, and as you can read further, validating someone is maybe one of the best things you can do to keep open lines of communication, help them feel valued, and not dismiss their emotions.
Sharing – A Vital Self-Care Strategy Everyone Must Practice
This is an interesting way to consider self-care. Typically we think of things we do alone, taking a break from people, resting, relaxing, etc. as “self-care”. Those things are important, but we also need to feel connected, so this is an important part of self-care as well, staying connected to others. The best way to…
Sharing – The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Our Worth and How I’ve Let Them Go
Orly’s first step to overcoming this was actually talking to someone about it. I cannot emphasize this enough. The shame we carry from childhood is all-consuming to us. It’s the secret we expend massive amounts of energy trying to hide and obsessing over. The things we feel shame about are the things that impact our day-to-day lives in adulthood.
And, for the most part, the shame we feel isn’t true. It’s not based in reality. Orly isn’t “not smart” any more than I am, and I do not deserve punishment any more than you. These are simply the stories we took away from our childhood.
This is also why that first reaction is so important. When we finally work up the courage to share our secrets, our shames, it’s painful to have them mocked or disbelieved.