“Far too automatically, people associate childhood sexual abuse with girls yet boys suffer as well. Quite possibly, they do so in greater numbers than you might expect.”
This letter is a difficult read, but one that I likewise think is important to understand both the reality of what sexual abuse can look like, and what to do if you find out it’s happening. I’m only going to quote the editor’s note, as it contains some warnings that are very, very important. “Eds….
I had the opportunity recently to read for review a copy of Bea Todd’s Appalachian Child: The Chronicles of an Abused Child and Her Journey to Survival. As always, when I first agreed to review it, I planned on getting it done earlier than this, but life and work got in the way! Bea’s book…
This is so very true, and such a struggle for those of us who grew up constantly being criticized, belittled, and abused. “In this case, the words that hurt, the words of abuse, are constant reminders of what others thought of us. Absent of any positive reinforcement, these words may have become hardwired within us….
Silence is a dangerous thing, just ask Chris Anderson. But even when we do talk about male sexual assault, harmful stereotypes and inaccurate myths too often cloud our understanding of the problem. It’s time to change the conversation, by debunking these misconceptions and allowing male victims the dignity of their own stories. Even well meaning…
As the post below goes on to explain, it’s not just being generous financially that has this effect on us, it can also be giving time by volunteering, or helping out someone who can use it, cooking a meal for them, helping them clean, etc. All of these ways of giving to another human being helps that person, and it helps us. It’s good for us.
The other thing I’d like for many survivors to consider is finding a way to be generous during the holidays especially when you are struggling with the holidays to start with. Yes, I’ve seen many, many folks already starting to dread the holidays. They are estranged from their families, expect to spend the holidays alone, etc. It sucks, I won’t lie about that. But, consider finding a way to be generous, as a way to make the holidays a bit less lonely. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, or another place that may be serving holiday meals. Hop online and offer to chat with other folks in a similar situation over the holidays, make plans to get outside of your own situation, and find a way to give to someone else, even if it’s nothing more than time.
That might be the better option for the holidays compared to just waiting for them to be over if you can find a way to do it.