TED Talk By A Cancer Survivor – Does Being a Survivor Define You?

ByMikeM Reading Time: 1 minute

This TED talk by Debra Jarvis is about being a cancer survivor, but I think the ideas presented have a lot to offer for abuse survivors as well. Sometimes it’s easier to stay a “survivor”, and allow that to be an excuse for our behavior, or to allow other people to define what being a survivor means.

Truthfully, no one gets to define your experience for you. How you choose to grow and how you choose to view your trauma is your choice. At the same time, you’re a survivor and more.

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