If you’re in a relationship with a survivor, there’s a lot of good stuff here. Whether it be a romantic relationship, which is the one where we tend to see these impacts most often, or even just a friendship, it’ll help you better understand what is going on with the people you care about.
As if we needed more proof that child abuse happens everywhere. It’s not just one group in the US, UK, Ireland, etc. there are groups all over the world, in powerful positions who abuse children, while we continue to look for the “creepy”, anti-social guy we’ve been led to belief should be the target of…
Because if they don’t learn it from you, they will hear about it from these sources. Is that where you want your kids to learn about sex? If you wait too long, you’re not protecting their innocence as much as you are creating an opening for someone else to teach them a worse version.
Sadly, as much as apps like TalkSpace might offer ways for people with no local therapist to find one to work with online, they still suffer from this very basic issue:
“The underlying problem of access — the fact that there simply aren’t as many therapists as there are people who need therapy — has not been solved by therapy apps so much as papered over. “
One of the struggles that I had as an abuse survivor, and one that I know other survivors have talked about, is defining who we are. Take everyone else away, remove all the ways we define ourselves based on our relationships with others – son, daughter, spouse, brother, sister, parent, coworker, friend, employee, boss, etc.
Who are you? As I often say, when you’re too busy trying to survive the chaos of an abusive childhood, you don’t get the guidance that would help figure this out. So we exist in these relationships with family, friends, and romantic partners, and we don’t know who we are outside of how they see us.
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