Matt Sandusky speaks about the slow and progressive process that a child sexual abuse perpetrator uses to manipulative a child into tolerating the abuse.
Understanding this is one of the hardest things about being in a relationship, of any kind, with an abuse survivor. As a sexual abuse survivor, it has been paramount in my romantic relationships to talk openly about my experience and what things can be very difficult for me. These discussions are important because there can be things that seem very simple and routine to you that your partner does not see the same way. (For example, I don’t like to be touched until I can see the person touching me and know they are someone safe. Approaching me from behind and touching me before I’ve had a chance to “see” who I am with can be very startling to me.)
I like to think that survivors are worth the effort, and my wife has confirmed that at least our relationship is worth it. It requires honesty and openness that may be new to survivors, but it’s the only way forward.
Sharon says a lot of really helpful things in the article below, but one that really struck a chord with me and my experience was in this paragraph: There is no right way to deal with a toxic family member. Only you can decide how much contact is right for you. And you will…
This seems like a huge problem… Given how few children and adolescents get the care they need, schools too often become the de facto front line for explosive children who might have behavioral problems for a host of complicated reasons, including the possible toxic combination of ADHD and trauma. Researchers have found that children who…
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