Matt Sandusky on the Grooming of Children by Child Sexual Abuse Perpetrators
Matt Sandusky speaks about the slow and progressive process that a child sexual abuse perpetrator uses to manipulative a child into tolerating the abuse.
http://www.theguardian.com/society/video/2014/sep/12/samantha-morton-sexually-abused-child-care-homes-video-interview Following revelations of child sex abuse in Rotherham, actor and director Samantha Morton felt the need to go public about her own shocking experience growing up in care homes in Nottingham. Here she talks for the first time about being sexually abused by residential care workers, and what happened when she went to the…
“Even so, ‘body safety’ as a set of rules that apply to body autonomy and private parts are only one part of the necessary education and nurturing of children. There is also an essential emotional component that cannot be ‘learned’ it must be nurtured between the child and a caring adult – preferably a parent….
Whilst ESPN’s role in the Syracuse case is less than stellar, the follow-up piece is good enough not to let them fall off the tweet log. This is the article covering stories by some male survivors at a treatment centre near to Syracuse University, New York. ESPN has portalised much of its content on the…
For Jeremy, the abuse stopped, and then he went on with life seemingly without issue. Until later, when there was an issue. We assume that all survivors keep their secrets because they are ashamed, and many of us do. But there are also survivors who don’t “look” like abuse survivors, they go on with a relatively normal and successful life, until one day they don’t. Someone who looks like your abuser, a different overwhelmingly stressful situation, an inadvertent touch, or a smell, can all bring it rushing back into your consciousness.
This is another reason why people don’t tell until much later. They don’t really have a reason to, they seem to be “over it”, but they aren’t always really over it.
This is yet another example of survivors being unique individuals and the fact that how each of us is impacted can be different too. Just because another survivor has a different journey than you, doesn’t mean much in the end.
The use of AI is a new twist. It’s not enough to tell young boys not to send explicit selfies; they also need to understand that someone may use AI to create an explicit image of them regardless. Education must include societal-wide awareness that an image may not be what it appears to be. That has to be part of this. The extortionist’s main weapon is the shame of having explicit photos of their victim out among their friends and family. Shame is powerful. When we live in a world where anyone with an internet connection and a photo of your face can turn that into an explicit image of you, we need to eliminate the shame. There’s no shame to be had for someone else’s bad actions.Â
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