Link – Why it’s SO important to check in on your friends and let them know you care

ByMikeM Reading Time: 1 minute

I used to think that checking up on someone made me seem overbearing, or like someone’s worried mom. Having grown up with a mom who was constantly worried about everything and always causing me to roll my eyes at her overprotective nature, I balked at coming across that way to my peers. Then, I dealt with my own depression and anxiety in my mid-twenties. Even though I sought therapy, I hesitated for a long time to confide in anyone close to me, or give any kind of window into the fact that nothing was as “fine” as my facade indicated. I feared judgment, or worse, dismissal in the form of comments like,”Oh, just get over it.” If just one person had noticed that I wasn’t quite feeling like myself, I know I would have felt far less alone.

It’s true. Statistics show that there is absolutely certainty that someone you know, who is right around you, is struggling with anxiety or depression right now. Simply paying attention, and being supportive, goes a long way.

http://hellogiggles.com/why-its-important-to-check-in-on-your-friends/

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