Link – Parents Need to Accept Their Child’s Mental Illness

ByMikeM Reading Time: 2 minutes

That is what makes me better now, why I seem happy. I try my best not to listen, and some days I am really strong. I push it down with dreams of the future, of a life where I might one day be happy. I know how to fix myself now, I know I will beat this. However, I need you to understand more than anything that everyday is still a battle for me. It may seem silly to you, but for me this is all so real and so difficult. So when you say I am lazy or weak or pathetic you cut deep into my wounds. You make me doubt everything I am trying to do, and you become just like those voices. As well as shouting at me, telling me to snap out of it, telling me the voices are my fault, you might as well be a part of my illness too. You may forget your words or your actions, but depression takes great satisfaction in storing it and playing it back to me. I don’t expect you to fully understand, but can you please just accept this is happening to me? That alone will make me ten times stronger. That is all I need from you.

So many people feel like they have to do something to help their loved ones “snap out of it” when it comes to depression, when really, don’t you think anyone who could snap out of it would be trying to do that? Just be there and accept the struggle, that is all you have to do to make a huge difference.

http://themighty.com/2016/06/parents-need-to-accept-their-childs-mental-illness/

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