Surviving childhood abuse takes strength, there’s no question that you are strong, but how that strength plays out, and what limits there are to that strength are anyone’s guess. Survivors are all individuals, some will struggle with certain things, others with completely different things. None of that makes you stronger or weaker.We are all just different.
Many abuse survivors are not ‘stronger’ after the abuse they have suffered. And for those who claim they are – that’s great, but it is very narcissistic to then look down on those who are struggling and mock, belittle and/or shame those who are deemed to not be ‘as strong’.
Many abuse survivors already feel considerable shame, due to the abuse they have suffered and when they are treated in this victim shaming way, that shame increases, and often leads to increased mental health issues, and can lead to suicide. When shamed for not being ‘strong enough’ – survivors can feel a burden, useless and weak. For those who have spiralled down to suicidal thoughts – this added shame can push them over the edge.