Sadly, this is too familiar for many of us who’ve been involved in the survivor community.
You had resilience. You were smart. You were funny. You were kind. You had a fragile heart and osteoporotic bones. But I never looked at you and saw damage. I only ever saw resilience and hope. It was you who couldn’t see this, believing that you were damaged goods and unlovable – and that you couldn’t make headway against your trauma.
How do we get the message out that survivors can heal, and have value? We have to keep sharing our stories, supporting survivors, and do everything we can to make sure resources are available for those who need help.
Given how common these stories are, we are obviously failing.