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What do we have to offer those kids beyond a message about how their already-high ACE score likely means they have a lifetime of poor outcomes to look forward to? It turns out we have a lot to offer them. By creating positive experiences, we can start to undo the damage and create a preventative buffer to help avoid further adverse events.Â
Sharing – I wrote a memoir about abuse. That doesn’t mean you’re entitled to every detail
Every survivor has the freedom to choose how, when, and in what detail, they want to share their story. You can ask for more, but you also have to respect the survivor’s choice to not answer. They don’t owe you that. The only time it’s really even appropriate to press for details if you’re a criminal prosecutor trying to help the survivor bring the abuser to justice.
Outside of that very specific situation? No, we don’t owe you anything. You can support a survivor without knowing all the details. In fact, respecting their boundaries around what they decide to share, is one great way to support them in their healing. They’ve already had too many people not respect their boundaries.
Link – This is how – and when – we need to talk about addiction
I would say the same thing about mental health, and child abuse survivors. It may not be easy to talk about, but until it is normal to do so, there will always be stigma around it. We talked and talked. Part of me silently whined and resented the conversation but a much bigger part of…
