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Sharing – Growth Requires Unlearning as Much as Learning
As children in an abusive situation, we may have learned a lot of things that helped us survive that situation. Outside of that situation, as adults, however, it may be time to unlearn some of those things.
For example, we can’t learn to trust a person as an adult until we first unlearn that “fact” we took from childhood that no one was to be trusted. We can’t learn to love ourselves until we unlearn the blame and shame we took upon ourselves due to the abuse.
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Sharing – How loneliness is killing men
I have two takeaways after reading the rest of the article.
1. Difficult things seem easier when there is someone with us. The lack of friendships can make life seem more difficult than it really is. When life seems too difficult, we might be more likely to give up, or for the stress to have health impacts that lower our life expectancy.
2. The best thing you can do for someone struggling is simply showing up beside them.
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Sharing – What Happens When a Trauma Is Also a Betrayal
In addition to the original betrayal, many survivors are then betrayed a second time when they are not believed or the abuse is minimized. When the people who should be protecting them refuse to see what is happening or refuse to believe that person that they trust would do such a thing, the child is betrayed by a second person, or a third, fourth, etc. Add in the fact that while these extra betrayals are happening it is also unlikely that the child is getting any assistance that could help alleviate PTSD with early interventions.
In short, the more betrayal, the more suffering. We all have a responsibility to, at the very least, not add to the betrayal.
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Shared Links (weekly) Nov. 13, 2022
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Media overload is hurting our mental health. Here are ways to manage headline stress
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Childhood traumas strongly impact both mental and physical health
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Do You Always Need Background Noise? There’s A Psychological Reason Why.– Guilty of doing this for healthy reasons and unhealthy ones.
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Common mental health inequalities across racialised groups: the gaps are getting bigger
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Go Gently – “Whatever you’re going through, remember this: The best way to face uncertain times is with gentleness. With yourself, with your loved ones, and with others.”
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Being Sad All the Time Is Too Much of a Burden – “Know that you will get through this.”
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Sharing – How Discrimination Affects Your Mental And Physical Health
Each of us has a choice to make. We can acknowledge that millions of people are oppressed and discriminated against. We can recognize that each additional act of oppression adds to the stress and mental health issues, or we can ignore that and do nothing. We can support celebrities, politicians, and religious figures who have no issue oppressing other people, who favor discriminating against people who are not like us, or we can contribute to lessening the discrimination people face and the harm caused.
Read the article below. Read it slowly and thoughtfully. Then choose wisely.
