New blog

ByMike McBride Reading Time: 1 minute

Found a new link to a fellow survivor of child abuse and have added her to the blogroll over there under that category. It seems that the blog was just started this month, but the frank, honest nature of the writing has made an immediate impact on me. I expect I’ll be back many times.

In other site news, I’ve been adding many interesting links and news articles to the forums over the last few weeks. I’m hoping that others will follow that lead and use the space to post their own links to good information or just to discuss their own thoughts. The more people we have contributing the more information we can cover and archive in one place as a resource for survivors. At least, that’s what I’m hoping!

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