I saw this review posted over at Breaking the Silence today. In the interest of providing the best reviews and material I can about abuse resources, I thought a pointer over to the review was well warranted. The Transcendent Child is a collection of childhood experiences, and sounds like a good one to check out!
I found myself reading this interview with Dr. Mary Koss recently, and while I’m not 100% sure about the prospect of “Restorative Justice”, as she refers to it, I think that often, when we think about child sexual abuse, we fall into the same misconceptions about the legal system that she refers to when talking more broadly about sexual assault.
Namely, that the legal system is not really designed to assist with the healing of a victim.
This is where the community comes in. Kids with strong connections to safe adults are less likely to be targeted and more likely to tell if they are. LGBTQ kids are less likely to struggle with suicidal ideation when they have adults who accept them as they are. Kids dealing with anxiety and depression have better outcomes when they have safe adults to talk through their emotions with, who can support them through difficult times. I’ve talked endlessly about the need for strong relationships with parents as the best preventive medicine we have for keeping children safe and supported. I’ve also talked, on my other site, about the importance of work-life balance and inclusivity when it comes to the workplace for parents. That’s what being the community that families need to succeed includes.
“Though not a replacement to therapy, Therapy Toolkit is a gentle primer for or complement to therapy. A comprehensive booklet that includes an introduction to the therapeutic process, tips on using the deck, and a list of resources for further guidance accompanies the deck.”
I would say the same thing about mental health, and child abuse survivors. It may not be easy to talk about, but until it is normal to do so, there will always be stigma around it. We talked and talked. Part of me silently whined and resented the conversation but a much bigger part of…