Feature: Female Abusers
The BBC published a magazine article about child sexual abuse by females in the UK, Â last week. View it here.
– CBG
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I am always shocked at how people just don’t beleive women can be predators of children . I alone have encountered at least 8 in my lifetime and have heard of others via other victims . Once again you are so getting so much good info out there . I truely belive education is one of the biggest keys in stopping the epidemic of child sexual torture . Thank You .