Couple of Good Resources

ByMikeM Reading Time: 1 minute

So, when I originally starting using Twitter to push out updates on what was going on with the Abuse Survivors Network, I thought I’d probably get a few followers to that account among the members of the network, and maybe have a few tweets about survivor issues, but not necessarily much. As it turns out though, I’ve started getting discovered by other survivors and supporters of survivors, who have been sharing a lot of good information and resources. So, I actually find myself retweeting some good stuff over there, like these two resources that folks were kind enough to share on Twitter.

Child Abuse Effects

American Foundation for Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Both seem to have a lot of good information and resources for survivors and those who just want to know more about survivors. Go check them out!

If you’re on Twitter, you can follow me there to get all the links I share that I don’t find time to write up here to, @SurvivorNetwork

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