Stephen Messham made one of his first public statements since last week’s mistaken identification of an ex-Conservative Party politician, and the Daily Mail’s hatchet job, when talking to BBC Wales’s Week In Week Out programme. Since this is currently unavailable to other regions on BBC’s iPlayer, the news website has the summary here.
Sound familiar? I know, for me, this is absolutely the truth, and even though I’ve done a ton of work to overcome this, and learn how to turn off this hyper vigilance, there are still times when it kicks in, like say during a pandemic.
I’ve said it before, and I’ll repeat it here. The last 16 months have forced everyone into being hyper vigilant. How do we suddenly turn that off? How exhausted are we from spending that much time constantly on the lookout for danger, and the worst case scenario?
Personally, that exhaustion goes beyond any words I have to describe it. It reminds me very much of what it was like in my 20s when I only had the life skills I learned as a kid, which were mostly just responses to abuse, not healthy ways to live as an adult.
http://www.desertsun.com/story/opinion/contributors/2015/02/07/valley-voice-teitelbaum-abuse-boys/23026265/ Just wanted to share the information from this article about a conference for male child abuse victims: This recovery effort has morphed into the annual “It Happens to Boys Conference,” which will take place on March 6-7 at the Annenberg Center for Health Sciences in Rancho Mirage. We offer survivors a safe, nonjudgmental environment…
The play is currently running in London until Aug 6, and the Survivors Manchester Organization has a review over on their site. This hard hitting piece of incredibly crafted drama is based on real life events, centering around the life experiences of David Holthouse, a journalist for the Denver Westwood, whose past comes back to…
As survivors, the reaction of parents when the child discloses can vary. This is the first case we have seen where the parents have demanded money from a confirmed offender with only a condition of leaving the area rather than a formal report to police. The money was then used as a deposit on a…
The article below describes how this can happen, mostly focused on several factors. One, things change. The family’s circumstances change over the years, your parents change over the years, and so an older or younger sibling might have been raised differently than we were. Also, we are different. Some kids’ personalities mesh differently with their parents compared to their siblings. That’s all pretty normal.
I want to talk about childhood abuse, especially why it can seem like our siblings don’t understand when we tell them about our abuse. One of the things that becomes clear as you read the link is that kids might grow up in the same biological family but not necessarily in the same circumstances.