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Link – 14 Key Signs of Depression in Men
Why do we often miss depression in men, and in teenage boys? This might have something to do with it: Part of the difficulty was that my friend’s symptoms were more about impatience, irritability, and anger than the behaviors we typically associate with depression, such as crying, moping, and an inability to get started with…
Sharing – Leaders: Protecting Abusers – Not Victims – Is a Costly Mistake
As the article explains, we feel empathy for people who are most like us. Children and other victims may not look like us as much as the abuser does. We might even know the abuser and not know the victim. The mentally lazy thing is to let our familiarity with the accused abuser blind us to the reality of what is happening. The way to get out of that is to focus on the humanity of the victim just as much. When you have empathy for everyone, regardless of whether they are like you or not, you can react to the situation in front of you instead of your bias about the people involved.
Everyone deserves that. No matter how different they may be from us.
Link – A suicidal friend needs you to care for yourself before them
It may not be the most popular, positive advice you’ve ever heard, but it is reality. In any relationship, you can only give what you have, and if you are neglecting your own needs, eventually, that will lead to having nothing. In the case of trying to support someone dealing with depression or healing from…
Sharing – When Grief Has No Grave: Rebuilding After a Childhood You Never Got
We struggle enough to talk about grief when someone dies. We don’t even come close to acknowledging the other things we can and should be grieving. As an abuse survivor, I still grieve for the childhood I never had, the close relationships with parents I never had, and the freedom to enjoy life that I didn’t have as a child.
Sharing – Red Flags of child sex abusers from an ex-child abuse detective
We’ve spent so much time looking at lists like this one, looking for the bad people, and that is absolutely part of abuse prevention. Still, we’ve missed the boat on what might be the most significant tool in our prevention toolkit, taking the target off kids by connecting with them as parents and with other trusted adults—helping them be less vulnerable.
Kids who don’t have secrets make terrible targets for abusers. Kids with support and secure relationships aren’t easily manipulated and aren’t too eager to please adults.
We need our kids to be more of that, starting with having close relationships with the safe adults in their lives.
Something You Can Do For Your Mental Health – Something New
For many survivors, routine keeps us safe. That same familiarity means you never have to deal with the unexpected, but it can also leave you stuck. It’s hard to develop resilience without occasionally doing something new. There’s also the reality of missing the mental health benefits of new experiences. That’s a real thing. Luckily, the something new doesn’t have to be anything big. The article above has some ideas: small, everyday things you can do to practice doing something new.
RT @SurvivorNetwork: This Week’s Links (weekly): Spotting the Warning Signs of Depression in Men tags: CA Child abuse: discussing the . …
RT @SurvivorNetwork: This Week’s Links (weekly): Spotting the Warning Signs of Depression in Men tags: CA Child abuse: discussing the . …