Watch for signs of depression in teenage boys
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The Disturbing Discrepancy & Double Standard Between Mental Illness & Other Health Concerns
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You Can Help Save a Life… But Not Today
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Child Abuse, Incest, Domestic Violence – In The Silence Nothing Changes
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That’s our blind spot. We’re so busy looking for creepy, anti-social, stereotypes that we miss the charming abusers right in our midst, and we miss all the signs and hints that our kids might be dropping because we just didn’t stop to consider that adult to be dangerous. We just assumed they were safe, and our kids would somehow know better anyway.
Clearly, that strategy isn’t working.
The hiatus for the Carnival Against Child Abuse is over, and on the first day of Fall, Marj has posted the latest version. I’m so glad to see it back again, and look forward to digging into these posts, and more in the months to come. Go take a look and welcome it back, thanks…
Stephen Meesham repeated his 1990s abuse allegations earlier this week and in the wake of the subsequent internet gossip, the wrong senior Conservative politician was identified – again. The confusion wasn’t resolved by Channel 4 news filing a report on Thursday 8th November stating they had been shown a compiled list including a Tory politician that, like…
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/10/22/top-ten-bipolar-blogs-2008/ Blogs tend to have a short life cycle, with most lasting under two years before fading into archival heaven. Last year Psych Central compiled a list of the top ten bipolar blogs, written by people who have a bipolar spectrum disorder. We’re glad that some of our faves are still active, sad to see…
Understanding this is one of the hardest things about being in a relationship, of any kind, with an abuse survivor. As a sexual abuse survivor, it has been paramount in my romantic relationships to talk openly about my experience and what things can be very difficult for me. These discussions are important because there can be things that seem very simple and routine to you that your partner does not see the same way. (For example, I don’t like to be touched until I can see the person touching me and know they are someone safe. Approaching me from behind and touching me before I’ve had a chance to “see” who I am with can be very startling to me.)
I like to think that survivors are worth the effort, and my wife has confirmed that at least our relationship is worth it. It requires honesty and openness that may be new to survivors, but it’s the only way forward.
I grew up in a world where having my friends and other parents think I was gay seemed worse than just continuing to be abused. Think about that for a minute. Think about what we tell boys about being a man and how society reacts to men who share that they were sexually abused as a child? Is there anything about it that screams “Tell your story. We support you!”.
There are some small pockets of that online and in certain circles, but it’s going to also come with a lot of questions about why you didn’t fight, how you’re destined to now be an abuser, that you enjoyed it, etc.
Female victims of almost all ages will get asked about what they were wearing, how much they drank, etc. That’s wrong.
Male victims will get our own set of questions, mostly about why we didn’t fight, why we were so weak, are we gay? That’s equally as wrong.
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