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Sharing – Designed to Be Kind: Why We Are More Social Than Selfish
As abuse survivors, it might be difficult to believe that most people actually want to be kind, and want to connect to other people. It wasn’t our experience growing up, and let’s face it, better safe than sorry, right? Why trust anyone?
Why do we get Stressed About Replying Quickly?
My first thought, obviously, was about the workplace and the culture we have created there that rewards being “always-on” but I think so much of this pressure permeates beyond work. As technology has become commonplace we all live with this pressure and this expectation. Think about it, how many times in a given week are you apologizing to friends and family because you couldn’t get back to them right away?
I do it all the time.
Heck, I’ve gotten text messages while having lunch or dinner with a friend, catching up with someone I haven’t gotten to see much for the last couple of years, and then apologized for doing that and being unavailable. Why? That makes no sense but we live in a culture where being connected to technology all the time also means that we should be responsive all the time. Or at least we feel like we should. Frankly, that’s a lot of pressure.
Link – Some suicidal men find support on Reddit
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Link – Learned Helplessness and Depression
It is a psychological state in which you may have learned to believe that you are helpless in particular situations. You may feel that you have no control over your life  and “give up.” The result is that you have learned to remain passive in the face of unpleasant, harmful or damaging circumstances, even when…
Sharing – It’s Also Okay Not to Talk About Your Mental Health
As I said earlier, we don’t live in an ideal world where everyone has an open mind and is comfortable having conversations about mental health and trauma. We have to make choices. For some, there are serious consequences to being identified as someone with mental health struggles in their professional lives. Others aren’t safe enough to talk about the trauma they are currently dealing with. We all make choices when dealing with different people around us, who we know are safe, versus those we don’t feel safe with.Â
Your choices are valid. They don’t have to be the same as mine because your life isn’t mine. All I ask is that you be thoughtful about your choices so you don’t find yourself in an unsafe situation. That’s all we can expect of anyone, no matter how much we want to see and hear more voices talking about mental health in the world.Â
RT @SurvivorNetwork: This Week’s Links (weekly): The Guilt of the Abused – Pathologizing the Victim tags: CA ChildAbuse Why We Need To… …
RT @SurvivorNetwork: This Week’s Links (weekly): The Guilt of the Abused – Pathologizing the Victim tags: CA ChildAbuse Why We Need To… …
RT @SurvivorNetwork: This Week’s Links (weekly): The Guilt of the Abused – Pathologizing the Victim tags: CA ChildAbuse Why We Need To… …
@SurvivorNetwork pls read and share my blog posts “Guilt” and “Speaking out” I talk about these from my perspective as an adult survivor