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Sharing – When in Doubt, Show Up, by Connie Schultz
This article is about losing her brother to suicide, but I think this message speaks to all of the things we go through that cause people to not know what to say, depression, child abuse, sexual assault, etc. I am reminded of a text message from one of my former students, sent from hundreds of…
Sharing – Reconnect To Reduce Anxiety and Reclaim Wellbeing
Tonya shares some good advice in the article below, I’m only quoting part of it, so definitely check out the whole thing. But, I do recognize myself in this lately, and I do recognize that allowing myself to get disconnected has not been good for me at all. It’s easy to get so caught up…
Sharing – Why The Age You Experienced Trauma Matters
When we talk about the effects of child abuse and other childhood traumas that last well into adulthood, this is what we are talking about. The normal development cycle was simply disrupted and we now must play catch-up.
It’s not impossible to learn and develop even as an adult, but first we need to stop blaming ourselves for both the trauma, and the effects of the trauma. We need to be open to learning new tools without judging ourselves for not already knowing how to fix ourselves.
If it were that easy, everyone would do it. Clearly that isn’t happening.
Sharing – Don’t Touch Me: Unwanted Affection Causes Stress
Turns out, we’re all a lot more complicated. If you read the rest of the article, what you’ll see is that none of this is simple, not only is there the line between wanted and unwanted affection, there’s also a point where we’ve simply had enough and don’t want more, and that line is not going to be the same for everyone.
All of this leads me to believe that the best way to navigate this in romantic relationships, or just with family and friends, is to communicate openly about what we want and don’t want.
Believe it or not, abuse survivors, you can do that. You can create your own boundaries, and ask for what you want in any relationship. It just takes some time to learn how.
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