Great book review by Amy and Mel! The review itself makes for some interesting reading about how survivors are bonded to their abuser, and how it can be important to understand that the abuser is doing things because of their own problems, not because the child is deserving.
Have you read this book? What did you think of it?
Bonded to the Abuser: How Victims Make Sense of Childhood Abuse
The National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC) shared three book recommendations to assist survivors and those who love them keep up their self-care during what can be a very stressful holiday season. Check them out, and let us know what you would recommend for the holidays! https://www.nsvrc.org/blogs/library/peace-books-and-you
Most things in life are not that clear. They are ambiguous. I know that when I’m unable to think beyond simplistic right and wrong it is very likely part of my own struggle. I’m falling for the cognitive biases that try to convince me that all the negative things I’ve ever experienced are the truth, and all of the positive things have been a lie.
It’s these cognitive biases that prevent many people from healing. Simply put, you can’t heal when you are unable to believe healing is possible for you.
This Allure article below actually seems like something we should be sharing, because right now everyone is feeling something, a lot of things, that may be completely new. I mean seriously the world is pretty overwhelming right now, you’d have to be dead to not feel something. But not everyone knows how to cope with that.
This could apply to many things in our society right now, but I’m interested in its mental health aspects, especially as a survivor. “Arrogant persons not only believes they are always right, but also believe their religious, political or ethnic groups are right, while often harboring a deeply held conviction that those outside their group…
Honestly, we put a birdfeeder in our yard a few years ago, and I will occasionally go out and watch some of the birds as they come to the feeder. It is relaxing. Having a few moments of relaxation in my day is good for my mental health. Maybe you can’t get a feeder and keep it stocked, but maybe there’s a park or lake nearby where you can hear and see the birds.
Give it a shot. See what happens.
So, maybe before you or someone you love, gets into a crisis situation, it would be a good idea to work on this kind of plan with a professional, so that when you really need it, it’s there. Of course, as Kimberly points out, that means we should be able to talk about our struggles and our own risks when it comes to suicidal thoughts in the first place without the fear of being stigmatized.
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I think I might like to read this. Where can I get a second hand copy, please?
Sally, I really do not know. You might check with a local bookstore or library on the off chance they have it, or keep an eye on Amazon to see if there are any available for resale. I don’t believe this has been a huge seller so it may be hard to find outside of ordering it new.
Thanks. It is around $50 to buy. I can’t afford that much.
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