There’s been a lengthy article making the rounds of social media the past couple of days.
It’s an interesting look into how relationship dynamics change and the roles can really reverse when one partner has a psychotic episode. Especially the struggles to regain the trust of each other after dealing with that episode and the appropriate treatment.
The one thing I took away, beyond that, though, was the concept of mad maps, of sitting down and making, and agreeing to a plan of treatment during time when the sufferer is actually lucid. In their case that can lead to a lot of arguments, but those arguments are worth having.
Last night, I decided to approach my wife about the subject. Now, it’s been a long time since I’ve had any issues with depression, let alone fugue states. So long, in fact, that my wife wasn’t around to see them. (MY first wife was, and if you read what I said above about the struggles of living a trusting relationship again, that may help explain why I have a second wife too. It’s not the whole story, but it played a not insignificant role.) Anyway, the question I had for my wife was, do you know what it looks like when you need to simply overrule me and get help, and what should hat help look like?
The conversation wasn’t really fun, or easy, to have. Still, I’m glad we had it. Hopefully, it will never come to that, but there is some reassurance in knowing that we are on the same page in terms of what to look for, what to do, and when to do it.
Do you have a similar plan of action?