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Sharing – 10 Signs You’re Healing From Childhood Trauma

The list below is interesting to me for one reason. None of the 10 signs are what you might call “huge” events. They are all big changes but changes that will occur in small increments. Take #8 for example:

“Another sign that you are healing from trauma is that you are no longer ashamed of your trauma anymore. Growing up with childhood trauma can cause social isolation and loneliness but once you’re on the healing journey, you understand that your trauma is not something you should be ashamed of and that you are not alone anymore.”

The act of going from being silent and ashamed of your trauma to talking about it without shame is not something that just happens. It takes time, and it’s a step-by-step process. You won’t one day get out of bed ready to address 1,000 people and tell your story. You’ll find one person you feel safe enough with to share your story, probably shaking with nerves. You’ll be afraid of how they will react, you might even feel a little ashamed but you’re starting to realize that the shame shouldn’t be yours.

That’s a victory. That’s a step in the healing direction. Celebrate it instead of kicking yourself for not being ready to speak to a large audience. You can’t get there without these intermediate steps. So see them as signs of healing.

Because healing really is just a bunch of steps.

https://www.calmsage.com/signs-youre-healing-from-childhood-trauma/

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