Shared Links (weekly) April 17, 2022

Shared Links (weekly) April 17, 2022

Sharing – When You Have a Lifelong Struggle With PTSD and Depression

Sharing – When You Have a Lifelong Struggle With PTSD and Depression

It can be a struggle when so many of our friends and even professionals want to help us overcome abuse to “get back to” ourselves when there is no previous version of ourselves to use as a target. I don’t think this should be the goal anyway. The goal for any child abuse victim should not be to go back to being a younger version of themselves before the abuse, the goal should be to build a life after abuse. I didn’t find much healing in trying to remember my early childhood, but I found a ton of healing in having someone help me design the life I wanted to have as an adult and helping me feel worthy and capable of having that.

Sharing – My Husband Took His Life After Hiding Years of Sexual Abuse

Sharing – My Husband Took His Life After Hiding Years of Sexual Abuse

Lenore’s story is sad and tragic, but her message is important. We lose so many survivors, men, and women, who just never find a way to share their pain and look for help. People who live without hope because they feel shame about something that was never their fault. I encourage you to read what she has to say about her hope in sharing her husband’s story. I also encourage you to consider how many survivors we lose in the same way who we don’t even know were abused as children because they never felt safe enough to tell anyone. I guarantee there are many more people like that than we would like to think about. 

Sharing – Healthy Boundaries for Adult Children of Toxic Parents

Sharing – Healthy Boundaries for Adult Children of Toxic Parents

There is some good advice in the article about how to create, and maintain, healthy boundaries with a variety of toxic parent “types”, but I will always fall back on one fact of life as a survivor of childhood abuse, we came out of childhood with no idea of what a boundary is, let alone why we would create one. We were never given the opportunity to learn or practice this skill.

It’s OK if it takes us a minute to figure it out before we get it right.

Shared Links (weekly) Jan. 30, 2022

Shared Links (weekly) Jan. 30, 2022