Saw someone share this yesterday and, after some time looking through it, decided it was definitely worth sharing. It’s from Lauren’s Kids page, and it has a ton of information about what they are calling the four “R’s”
Recognize
Report
Respond
Recover
The New Mental Health Crisis Hotline Could Save Lives—and Cost Them– The details about rolling this out and funding the service and all of the services callers are referred to will determine how successful it is.
How one teacher uses books to help students with emotions like anxiety, grief
Statistics show sexual abuse may be more common than you think.
It can be a struggle when so many of our friends and even professionals want to help us overcome abuse to “get back to” ourselves when there is no previous version of ourselves to use as a target. I don’t think this should be the goal anyway. The goal for any child abuse victim should not be to go back to being a younger version of themselves before the abuse, the goal should be to build a life after abuse. I didn’t find much healing in trying to remember my early childhood, but I found a ton of healing in having someone help me design the life I wanted to have as an adult and helping me feel worthy and capable of having that.
Lenore’s story is sad and tragic, but her message is important. We lose so many survivors, men, and women, who just never find a way to share their pain and look for help. People who live without hope because they feel shame about something that was never their fault. I encourage you to read what she has to say about her hope in sharing her husband’s story. I also encourage you to consider how many survivors we lose in the same way who we don’t even know were abused as children because they never felt safe enough to tell anyone. I guarantee there are many more people like that than we would like to think about.
There is some good advice in the article about how to create, and maintain, healthy boundaries with a variety of toxic parent “types”, but I will always fall back on one fact of life as a survivor of childhood abuse, we came out of childhood with no idea of what a boundary is, let alone why we would create one. We were never given the opportunity to learn or practice this skill.
It’s OK if it takes us a minute to figure it out before we get it right.
Toxic positivity & victim blaming women – It’s a short drive from “everything happens for a reason” to “you deserved that”. Just no to all of it.
Trauma-informed care in mental health: what should it look like
‘I Don’t Want To Be A Burden’: On Black Men, Suicide And How To Be A Safe Space
You Are Not Alone in Your Grief, No Matter How ‘Messy’ It Is
How to Cope with Feeling Off and Getting Back to Your ‘‘Normal’’
Healing From Trauma Means Cleaning Up the Mess You Didn’t Make
