Shared Links (weekly) Nov. 20 2022
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Sexual abuse survivors launch national day to encourage others to speak up– The Aussie only came forward when he read another man tell his own story. This is why we speak.
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It’s That Time of Year – Setting Boundaries with your Family
I enjoyed reading it. Some of you looking for the best way to communicate your boundaries might find one or two valuable things on her list this season.
I liked
I’m not obligated to explain myself to you.
“No” is also a complete sentence you should feel free to use when appropriate.
Which script resonated the most with you from the list? What would you add?
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Sharing – The idea that many people grow following trauma may be a myth
Over the years of having this website, I’ve had many people suggest that my abusive childhood made me more compassionate and a kinder human being. Or, maybe it gave me a better sense of humor or made me more spiritual.
Or maybe it didn’t. No version of me wasn’t abused. If there had been a version of me that wasn’t abused, he could be more compassionate. He could be a complete narcissist. He could be funnier or kinder. He could be a selfish ass.
No one knows. That version of me is Schrodinger’s cat. It’s all the possibilities because the box can never be opened to see what’s inside.
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Sharing – Life-Changing Benefits of Self-Compassion
Child abuse can be all about shame and guilt. Because the entire world wants to believe that things are fair when we grow up, trying to square that belief with what happened to us as children naturally leads us to believe it’s our fault.
You can’t have self-compassion and also believe the abuse you suffered was your fault. We have to get past this idea that the world is fair and we get what we deserve. It’s simply not true. We have to be willing to have the same compassion for ourselves that we would have for another crime victim.
Everyone deserves to have some compassion for others and learn how to have compassion for themselves.
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Sharing – The Right Is Misusing the Word “Grooming,” and It Can Have Serious Consequences
Why is this so hard for so many people to understand? Why are some of you so dead-set on causing harm to people who are different than you? If your religious leaders encourage you to harm people or treat any other group of human beings as anything less than human, they are not to be taken seriously. We need to stop giving these leaders our attention or our money.
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Shared Links (weekly) Aug. 7, 2022
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‘When it comes to mental health, all countries are developing countries’
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Supporting a Family Member with Serious Mental Illness Is Harder Than It Should Be
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Books Under Review: Summer 2022 – “Reviews of five recent books reflecting various perspectives on the mental health system.”
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