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Childhood Trauma and ACE Scores in the News Again
I think that makes sense. This is consistent with previous studies. What I want to know about, though, are the 45% who don’t have depression, the 49% who don’t have anxiety, the 75% without PTSD, and the 80% with no substance abuse issues. What was different for them? What kind of help or support was available for them as children compared to the others who did suffer from these issues? What kind of trauma were they dealing with? What kind of community did they live in? What resources were made available for them?
Link – ‘I survived abuse – now I’m starting to date at 47’
I love that this story is being told for a number of reasons. First, and foremost, I think it’s important that people understand how child abuse can lead to very serious issues around relationships and intimacy. Not all of those issues will look like this, a massive fear of intimacy that leads to trying to…
Sharing – How Does Sleep Affect Your Mental Health?
In short, lack of sleep = some increased likelihood of depression and anxiety, impaired function, and an inability to learn new things. We often hear about how the sharp rise in these things coincides with the rise of technology in our day to day lives, especially the smartphone, but I don’t think it’s quite that…
Link – Five Common False Beliefs About Trauma
I’ve heard some variation of all of these myths over the years from folks I interact with online and off. And, it matters if you are unable to see them as false: “Often, these take the form of patients’ false beliefs about the trauma they experienced, who they are in relation to it, and what…
Sharing – Acknowledging Limits – Helping Others
One of the things I immediately recommend to anyone asking about starting a blog like mine is to set your boundaries. If you don’t, you’ll burn out and be gone within 6 months. Decide what you will say, what you won’t, and how much time you’ll dedicate to writing for the blog and interacting with people online. Because if you don’t you’ll find yourself unable to cope and you’ll bail on it.
I’d say the same thing about anything. Yes, be with someone who needs support, but set your boundaries around it, and make sure you are still taking care of your own life. Because the only thing worse than someone not sitting and listening to a friend or loved one when they are struggling, is having some do it for a while, and then disappear. That doesn’t do anyone any good. We all need you to be well just as much as we need you to stick with relationships when someone is dealing with healing, or mental health issues.
Set your boundaries, and be willing to stick to them, lovingly. As Liz says in her piece, it’s not about you doing everything, it’s about you pointing them to a whole host of options for support. That is what being a good support system is all about.
@SurvivorNetwork Read Ian Pace blog on truth of Fridays meeting and Woolf resignation
RT @SurvivorNetwork: This Week’s Links (weekly): To The Secondhanders: Those Who Love People Who’ve Survived Abuse tags: CA ChildAbuse… …
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